Ex-Comparisons
Why do people obsess over comparing their ex to their new partner?
4.1 (13)
33 mins
Discover how the mind clings to past emotional patterns, using an ex as a subconscious reference point to feel safer in new love. Unravel why new relationships become quiet comparison arenas, where validation and reassurance often compete with genuine presence and connection.
Ep 1:
The Villain in Your Own Story
Why does your ex feel like the villain? Uncover the psychology of cognitive dissonance and the unspoken cultural rules that quietly sabotage how we grieve and process breakups.
Ep 2:
The Comparison Trap
Comparing new love to old wounds? Explore the fine line between healthy reflection and toxic comparison addiction—and the red flags signaling you're not truly present.
Ep 3:
When Ghosts Haunt New Love
Chronic comparison can quietly erode trust and intimacy. Discover surprising lessons from polyamory's 'metamours' and why feeling inadequate to a partner's past is often pure fantasy.
Ep 4:
Breaking Free From the Score
Ready to stop competing with ghosts? Learn practical strategies for emotional closure, presence, and building a relationship judged on its own unique merits.
Discussions (12)
Logan
Level 9 · 7 mo agoI disagree with the host on clean breaks. Blocking an ex is often a necessary boundary. You do not owe anyone friendship after a relationship ends.
Elizabeth
Level 8 · 7 mo agoClean cuts are mythical.
Traci
Level 2 · 7 mo agoPainting the ex as a villain isn't always a coping trick. My ex stalked me for years. He was the problem. Not my brain trying to protect itself.
